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Anna Judd's avatar

I just love you and the way you navigate through life. It's glorious.

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Candy Downs's avatar

Anna, I just love you back. I’m so happy we’re here together girl 🖤

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Matthew Donnellon's avatar

This was really good. You’re writing is one of a kind

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Candy Downs's avatar

You’re one of a kind.

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Terry Twitchell's avatar

From “Technically single” through to “sweetly tell you you’re wrong” is the gold standard we all seek, and there’s no way I could have expressed it better.

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Candy Downs's avatar

Terry, thank you so much! You reading means the world to me xoxo

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Terry Twitchell's avatar

You’re welcome. Thank you for the well written piece on the ever changing dynamics of love

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Candy Downs's avatar

🙌🏻

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Terry Twitchell's avatar

🙌

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Abbey Wade's avatar

BABE!!!!! This is gorgeous. Raw. Honest. Real. All the things you are.

Funny and cute and incredible.

I love that you have your support system. And I love you. I’m happy to be in your world, my love. Also, don’t forget I am quite literally capable of being your sushi chef💋

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Candy Downs's avatar

Abbey, I love you.

And I am coming over immediately for sushi and crab legs!

Hottest sushi chef in town! My exes would forget my name lol

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Laggy's avatar

I’ll take cloudy wasabi and soy over “complicated”. Tastes better.

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Allen Kwon's avatar

This was so weirdly romantic and platonic and hilarious and beautiful all at once. I didn’t know whether to laugh, cry, or order a spicy tuna roll.

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Candy Downs's avatar

Allen. I love you so much!

Also all of the above.

Maybe our karaoke date is also a sushi date

Thank you for this ♥️

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Allen Kwon's avatar

Music For a Sushi Restaurant by Harry Styles seems fitting.

😊

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Candy Downs's avatar

You get me.

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Bear Wiseman's avatar

Alright, this is my first foray into your writing and I am all sorts of living for this situationship.

First of all, I'm morally poly even if I'm currently monogamous, so anyone who dares to explore the limits of love beyond the boxes society puts on us? I'm gonna celebrate you to high hell!

But I also love that the clear moral of this story is that the weirdest shit is possible when the motive stems from love. Like two dads and a mom all platonically havinh sushi.

Love all of this! 💞💞

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Candy Downs's avatar

Bear. Wow I am so beyond flattered you read and you see me! Us.

I never set out to break the rules or defy the norms in relationships.

Which I now realize I should have set out to.

There is no one size fits all when it comes to love. I am so looking forward to getting to know you better. Thanks so much for being here ♥️

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Bear Wiseman's avatar

In my arguably not that humble opinion, I think love is Love. Full stop. We don't nitpick over loving many children or many friends or many family members, so I think we should stop gatekeeping what love is and can be, full stop. Let love be love (as long as everyone's consenting). Alongside the nipple, I want love to be freed from societal bonds as well! Haha uh oh I'm gonna let my weirding way out... quick, send in the troops!

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Candy Downs's avatar

Haha we welcome all the love and weirdness here

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JMH's avatar

I’m all for redefining the term situationship

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Candy Downs's avatar

Me too.

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Libertarian's avatar

Dearest Candy,

Have I told you today how much I love you and cannot live without you? No?! Shame on me!

You are like the morning dove cooing at my window to steal my heart. Your tales soar to the skies in my sight before returning to me in the dust of moonlight.

When with my heart full from loving you, I finally slumber into the dream of belonging only to you and I hear you whisper to me like the flutter of a sparrow on the wing. Too small to be so brilliantly wonderful.

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Candy Downs's avatar

Did you tell me this already today?

No. Phew. Well thank goodness you are telling me now. I couldn’t possibly go a day without hearing it.

Same time tomorrow? Xoxo

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Dana Blythe's avatar

Hey Candy! I got a stomach bug and binged your writing while lying in bed all day yesterday. Thanks for the company during my sick day.

I LOVE your writing and your family's story. I am compelled to respond to this post to address your need for romantic companionship. And cheer you on in your quest.

First, know that while I don't identify as polyamorous, I'm in an open marriage and run with that crowd. So, I see things differently than most.

I totally understand, appreciate, and LOVE your platonic relationship with JC and Larry.

My unconventional worldview is why -----> I ABSOLUTELY believe you will find love with an amazing, open-minded, 6 foot 5, good man while living with JC and Larry, your platonic protective angles.

JC and Larry dating someone else? Eh, I'm not so worried about that. They enjoy their household now. But if that day comes, call me girl. And we can workshop that jealousy, or, since I'm not a credentialed counselor, I'll point to a few handy, easy-to-use guides available to those living their best unconventional lives.

I'm manifesting Mr. Right for you now. A weekend getaway with a man who respects JC's blanket order. And honors Larry's desire for a balmy indoor temperature. It's gonna happen!

And I'm here for the ride.

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Candy Downs's avatar

Hi Dana,

Omg well first of all I love you! Second I am so sorry you got sick and I hope you’re feeling better today. But I am SO SO happy I got to keep you company.

I love this take on our situation. I truly believe there is no one size fits all set of relationship rules! If someone is happy, I am happy for them.

I appreciate you reading so much, you must have gone way back for the couch blankets and thermostat lol I almost forgot about that.

This made my entire weekend! I am thrilled you found me ❤️

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A.V. James's avatar

This really made me fall in love with the little dynamic that you all have together. There’s something really special about it, and it’s rare to have these days. Hold on to it! 🩷

Also your son drinking miso from a straw when he was little is such a boss move! lol. What a cutie!

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Candy Downs's avatar

Thanks friend! I love you 💕

I’m lucky to have these guys, and even luckier they said I could write whatever I want about them because they were sure “Nobody reads these days” 😂 whoopsies

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Craig Slater's avatar

A great read, Miss Candy. You are one of a kind.

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Candy Downs's avatar

Thanks so much Craig :)

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Chris Keller's avatar

Candy, you are always funny, but I really enjoyed the (humorous) introspective side of you. Very enjoyable read.

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Candy Downs's avatar

Hi Chris,

Thank you so much for reading and seeing both sides of me. I truly appreciate the compliment:)

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Signe Drake's avatar

That banana hat! I did chuckle. I did laugh. Enjoyed reading this.

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Candy Downs's avatar

Haha! Thanks Signe, I’ll have to find the banana hat picture!

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Pamala Vallarta's avatar

Damn Dear! This one really warmed my heart. And I am excited about going to that restaurant - I want everything in that picture!

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Candy Downs's avatar

I love you Mama! Can’t wait for you to get here

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Pamala Vallarta's avatar

Miss you guys so much.

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